Language & Logic

The New York Times posted a Student Opinion question: “Do You Enjoy Small Talk?” on Oct. 02, 2025. Since I can’t post there yet, I’m sharing my reflection here — about what small talk means to me.

When people hear the phrase “small talk,” they sometimes roll their eyes and think it is a waste of time. But I see it differently. Small talk is not about the exact words we say; it is about the chance to connect with someone new, even if it starts with something tiny. As students, especially girls who often find ourselves in busy hallways, crowded lunch tables, or waiting before class begins, small talk can be a way to make those spaces feel warmer and more fun.

​I genuinely love chatting, so small talk feels natural to me. It can start with something light, like complimenting someone’s backpack or asking if they understood last night’s homework. Those little moments can turn into conversations that actually matter. When you think about it, the most important friendships usually do not begin with serious life stories. They begin with a smile, a question, or even a silly comment about how hot it is outside. Small talk is the spark that can light up something much bigger.

​Another reason I enjoy small talk is that it helps people feel less alone. Sometimes you notice a classmate sitting by herself, or someone who looks nervous before giving a presentation. Reaching out with a casual comment, even something simple like “good luck,” can change how that person feels. Small talk is not shallow when it shows kindness. It can be a way of saying, “I see you and I care,” without having to pour out a whole speech. In that sense, small talk is powerful, especially in school where so many people are quietly hoping to be noticed.

​Small talk also teaches us how to listen. At first, you might just ask about someone’s favorite subject or what sports they play, but if you listen closely, those answers give you clues about who they are. It is almost like a puzzle: one piece at a time, you learn more about them, and eventually, you see the bigger picture. That is why small talk should not be underestimated. It can help you practice curiosity and patience, instead of expecting instant closeness. I think girls especially are good at this because we often notice little details and respond with empathy, which makes conversations flow more naturally.

​I notice this the most during swim meets. If you have ever been to one, you know how unbelievably long they are. You might swim for less than ten minutes total, but you are stuck there for four or five hours waiting for your events. Without small talk, the hours would drag on forever. But chatting with teammates, laughing about silly things, or even just talking about school helps pass the time. Small talk makes the waiting bearable, and sometimes those conversations become the funniest or most memorable parts of the day. It is proof that even in situations that seem boring, chatting can turn it into something fun.

​Of course, there are times when small talk feels awkward. Maybe the other person gives one-word answers or seems distracted. In those moments, it can be tempting to give up. But even then, I believe it is worth trying, because not every attempt will turn into a long chat. The effort itself shows confidence and friendliness. Sometimes the best thing about small talk is not the words but the fact that you were brave enough to start. That bravery can carry into other parts of life, from group projects to future jobs.

​In the end, I think small talk is something we should appreciate rather than avoid. It is not about being fake or wasting time; it is about opening doors. For students like us, especially girls who love to chat, small talk can be a daily practice that leads to friendships, laughter, and surprising moments of connection. The next time you have the chance, do not shy away from it. Ask a question, share a comment, or give a compliment. You never know when a tiny conversation could turn into something unforgettable.

Have you ever had a moment when a simple conversation with someone, maybe even a stranger, made your day better or led to a new friendship? What made that small talk feel meaningful?

About Pearl

Pearl Z. is a Grade 7 student who loves reading, swimming, and solving puzzles. She started the Language & Logic forum to connect literature, current issues, and creative problem-solving, and to give students a space to share their voices.